A Lil Bit of Pre-Marital Advice

Posted On May 20, 2009

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The Fiance and I have tossed around the idea of pre-marital counseling, but neither of us come from a highly religious background so we were uncertain. I know that most of those inventories of relationships are very religion-based. So, I searched the internet high and low looking for some non-secular. While the mister and I would love to believe everything is perfect, we also know there are unspoken things that are sure to emerge and we’d rather talk about them now before they come problems.
Couples disagreement, need for counseling
We are both from long married parents, and are wanting to keep this relationship on the right path from the beginning. Pro-active pre-marital counseling 🙂

Did anyone else want to do the pre-marital counseling? And what did you think?


Linens, Place Settings, Flatware OH MY!

Posted On May 11, 2009

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This weekend I adventured to party rental company with my bridesmaid to check out all the fun linens, place settings, and flatware. Along with different centerpiece options.  We walked in and saw 4 foot tall winter tree branch arrangements, just like I want! The florist was quoting $50+ to create them but here I could rent them for $15/each. I was excited!

ice branches

It was on to linens, I wanted something dark royal blue or eggplant. Which I learned was way harder then expected. Lots of linens has a irredecense to them which I liked, because the light would play off of them. They were so nice to put them onto tables for me. My bridemaid and I fell in love with this one.

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It’s a Royal Blue crush. At that point they plated it with a silver charger and white square dishes and even some silver candelabras that could accommodate flower arrangements at the top!!! I  am more excited about the linens then I ever thought I’d be, unfortunately, the linens I love have to be custom ordered so I may have to find a lower cost one. Not sure if fiance will love the thought of $40 linens?!

I am trying to use all these rented pieces to create that atmosphere of a wintry wonderland, although I am using jewel tones, I just want people to feel like they’re sitting in a wintry forest of happiness.

What details/special touches did you use to create the atmosphere for your wedding?

Fantastic Floral Finale

Posted On May 7, 2009

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flowers After having a Florist #4 who sat at  Starbucks when I was sitting at the table next to him reading ELEGANT BRIDE and with my bridal bag was prominently displayed. He proceeded to tell me that orchids this and orchids that, and he’s getting married 2 weeks after my wedding and doing those flowers. It just stressed me out and I wasn’t feeling the vibe.

So, with my bridemaid in tow I adventured after work Tuesday to Florist #5. With 3 more appointments made next week I was ready for a home studio disappointment. Instead of flying high with my hopes I’d resorted do going in low. I was greeted and led into a beautiful garage studio. There were flowers around me. This was the first florist I’d been to and seen actual flowers AND arrangements. I was in awe. She pulled down vases and made mock arrangements out faux flowers. Brought samples out of her WALK-IN COOLER of  actual flowers she could use.

She was ecstatic about my peacock, jewel toned, winter wonderland and she loves the 1950’s (JUST LIKE ME) I was in smit, until I saw her prices. They weren’t bad, but they were a bit higher then I was comfy with. She of course took this into consideration and told me where we could adjust.

When she went to find me a peacock feather sample, my bridesmaid (the accountant) and I pow-wow’d. She has it broken down into feasible payments and told me how she hasn’t seen someone share my vision as perfectly as she has.

That was it, I wrote the check for the deposit and skipped out with swatches of ribbon and feathers to match Bridesmaid dresses with so she could wrap with things that matched.

Did you have an exhausting search for a type of vendor that you thought would a breeze? What was the happy ending?

Floral Debacle Version3.5

Posted On May 5, 2009

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It ends up my appointment with Florist #3 was a misunderstanding, she has it on her books for the week after, and she’s forgotten and was very apologetic. Being the happy bride that I am, I happily obliged for a re-schedule. We finally meet.

She’s sweet, very all down to business, as I hear she has plans after this. While I appreciate her all-business approach I also like to bond and get to know my vendors a lil bit. Yes, I am a bit of a get to know ya sorta bride. I like to tell my “humorous anecdotes” about wedding dress shopping. Which she was like *sigh* that was a long time ago for me. So, yeah we shuffled along, and she kept checking her phone during the process. In the end, she has beautiful modern ideas, but I just don’t see her as my florist. Which is hard because she is friends with some of my other vendors. I felt like I needed to hire the entire posse. Complete the whole set….

Did you get recommendations from other vendors for vendors?

Florist #3…is a charm?

Posted On May 3, 2009

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I figured if I met with three florists, I would be doing the “right thing” by having enough variety in choices. Whenever I was meeting with a vendor, I would as for recommendations of other vendors. I figured it the best place to look. I’d perused Florist #3’s website and enjoyed it although found it plain but was really excited to meet her. I rushed from a workshop I’d been at all day across town for our appointment and was surprised she wasn’t there. Oh well I was early (as I often am…)  I sat outside her studio, thumbing through a issue of people I’d found in the lobby downstairs. Okay five minutes past I’m starting to worry…..I don’t have her phone number because we’d set this up via email. To the rescuse lil blackberry I shoot off an email to her, and check her website for a phone # so I can call her…nothing….

jilted_bride_0309I am a bride stood up at the florist. I feel really bad and check my calendar and my emails and triple check them…nope I was on time.

*sigh* Have you ever been stood up at a bridal appointment?

April Showers…Bring May Flowers….

Posted On May 1, 2009

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Where is this year going???  Happy May Day!

I am amazed we are almost half way through this year!! I’d blame it on all the wedding planning but nah! I think things are just flying by. Even with time flying by, as I’ve mentioned before I really want to make some DIY things.

After talking with a florist about the cost of kissing balls/pomanders I just though I’d love to make them myself out of carnations and so I went to the web a hunting for a tutorial.


How lucky I was to find this

A great lil step by step…instead of those crystals on the bottom I thought I’d put snowflake ornaments, and instead of red mine will by white. The florists keep telling my $75+ for these and that’s even in fake flowers. I know the lil flower girls will look adorable carrying whatever, but I think these look a lot like snowballs.

Since our venue doesn’t allow anything to be tossed or thrown on the ground. Originally, I’d planned on the girls throwing fake snow with snowflake punches out of silvery cardstock 🙂 But now I think I am in love with pomanders, so it’ll all be A-OK!!!

Where is your favorite place for wedding tutorials?

Finding a Florist : Part 2

Posted On April 25, 2009

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By googling florists, I came across a florist’s website who I enjoyed. After a few emails, we decided to meet for Starbucks and discuss my “vision.” I brought my mom along for some moral support, as this was the second florist I’d met with and wasn’t sure on how this whole thing was going to go.

After work Mom and I trekked off to Starbucks to meet Tracy. When we walked into the Starbucks we found a woman with a table covered in floral covered photo albums, THAT HAD TO BE HER! We were greeted with smiles and warmth.

Two minutes into being with Tracy, I felt like I was with an old family friend. Everything I mentioned she gave me the security she’d love to do.

Peacock Feathers – Check!

Garden Roses – Check!

Sparkly Handles – Check!

Accents of purple and blue without looking cheezy – Check!

I thumbed through these gorgeous photo albums of weddings, ranging from $300 – $50,000. I was blown away how none of them appeared “bargain” On top of that we had great conversation, I got the vibe that Tracy would truly CARE about my wedding. She said that even if I didn’t use her as a vendor, that she would LOVE to come to my wedding because she thinks I am such an amazing person. My mom and I were in florist smit.

I left that night with anticipation of an email quote in the next couple of days, only to arrive home later and find that she’d rushed home and made a quote so I would have to wait. With the sweetest email I’ve ever read.

Yet, I was torn, would she be able to accomplish the trendiness, oh of course and she’d be like having a family member at the wedding.

Sad Epilogue: Sunday, when I emailed Tracy to ask her to be my florist I received some horrible news. She’s having some personal health issues that will have her leaving the floral business at the end of the summer. So…she can’t do my wedding. I cannot explain the heartbreak, here I was questioning myself never thinking maybe something would happen in her life. Not to mention, I now was worried about someone who I barely knew. I told her to keep in touch because I would be thinking about her.


The hunt for the florist continues….did you lose out on a vendor you had your heart completely set on?

I don’t even know you, but I want your wedding

Posted On April 22, 2009

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When trolling around websites for inspiration, I found it hard sometimes. There are SO many gorgeous wedding in the summer, spring, and fall. But in rainy old Oregon, it’s hard to think of a winter wedding as a snow covered quiet. Yet, that is the one thing that I want so badly to create, even if it is a blustery rainy winter day come December for our wedding.
As, I wandered the knot winter weddings board one evening I came across a poster that I fell in love with her bio.


I love all the details she used, and I was impressed when I read how much was DIY, the end result was gorgeous. They even has snow flurries the day of her wedding. I am glad to have found her blogs and bios because they’ve provided such wonderful inspiration for me. I keep looking for other awesome wintery wonderlands.

Did you find anyone with a similar vision that inspired you in your wedding planning?

How is that planning a wedding thing going?

Posted On April 17, 2009

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It seems as every conversation I have these days starts with “How’s your wedding planning going?”

At first I answered this question with “good” *smile*, which slowly transitioned into “It’s goin….,” then to a mini rant on all the things to get done and how I never thought it would be this hard, but now I’m back to “good” *plastered smile.*


When I say good, people are like “oh yay!” What I’ve realized is 99% of people do not want to hear the trials and tribulations of booking a florist, deciding on a dress, or what kind of cake to have. While I am the girl who always wants to hear those things about friend’s weddings. Heck! strangers tell me about their lives when I am waiting in line at a Starbucks, and I love to help people as if they have someone to talk to.

Most people do not realize that working full-time, and cramming in wedding planning at the end of the day or in your already packed weekend, stressed the bajeebies out of a girl. This is coming from one who LOVES every second of it. But, I am getting tired of my fiance glazing over when I want to deconstruct and contrast my last 2 appointments with DJs.  My dad doesn’t even want to hear wedding talk in my parents house, so I have to kidnap my  mom so we can  brainstorm details.

They should have a support group for us bride to bes. A weekly round table to share all the wedding frustrations, accomplishments, and details we need to hash out!

Who did you have to bounce every wedding detail off of?

Last Single Year…According to the Government

Posted On April 15, 2009

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Come this time next year I’ll be filing with the fiance a joint tax return. I am really wondering what it will be like, will we get more or less back. He’s in school so he’s always getting these great school credits, and I’m afraid he’ll lose those when my time comes to add onto the taxes.


Will our double incomes but us into a higher tax paying ratio, all these things I wonder about. But at the same time a lil bit of me gets excited to file a joint tax return, the whole world, government and all will know I’m a MRS!

Only time will tell, as next year rolls around. There is one thing that I do know about our taxes next year, and that’s that they’ll be filed early. The fiance and I are both really into getting our taxes filed early and not having to worry about them come April. While a lil slacking my come after the post wedding let down I am sure we’ll be just fine.

Did you discover anything when it came to filing taxes you were surprised about?

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